Permission to Be Silly: Why Wedding Photographers Shouldn’t Take Themselves Too Seriously

One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned as a wedding photographer is that it’s okay—actually, essential—to be a little silly sometimes. While professionalism matters, showing up with warmth, humor, and a touch of playfulness helps people relax and be themselves in front of the camera. Whether it’s making a toddler laugh during portraits or cracking a corny joke to ease pre-ceremony nerves, a lighthearted approach invites authenticity. The best photos come when people forget the camera is there—and that only happens when the photographer feels like a calm, friendly presence, not just a vendor on the sidelines.

That said, balance is everything. No one wants the photographer to be the center of attention or act like a COURT JESTER. The goal is to complement the wedding vibe, not compete with it. Whether the day is elegant and refined or laid-back and quirky, your energy should support that atmosphere—not distract from it. Stepping into the fun doesn’t mean stealing the spotlight; it means blending in with grace, reading the room, and being in tune with your couple’s style. When you strike that balance, you help create a joyful, natural environment—and the images reflect that magic.